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Learn #15 New Things: Freelancer or Entrepreneur?

Learn #15 New Things:

Are you a freelancer or an entrepreneur?

The concept of freelance work versus entrepreneurship is something I didn’t really understand until recently. I envisioned myself creating a career as an entrepreneur but was going about it from a freelancer point of view…

Last week I listened to a podcast called Seth Godin’s Startup School and I learned a lot about the difference between these two types of work. Author Gordin said, “Freelancers get paid when the work, they don’t get paid when they don’t.” And that really hit me. In the business of providing doula services and yoga classes I would be a freelancer. Also according to Godin, “Entrepreneurs build something bigger than themselves – they make money when they sleep.” My current model involves a lot of getting paid when I work, and very little getting paid when I don’t work. Perhaps this is the nature of my business, but perhaps I can be both.

What really resonated with me is the idea that you can be both. Like Seth Godin, I would eventually like to spend 80% or less of my time as a freelancer, and 20% or more of my time as an entrepreneur. To do that I need to corner a market and provide something different or better than anyone else. What will people cross the street to get from me? I’ve been looking at my competition in the prenatal yoga, childbirth education, and doula fields and considering my options. Always on the back-burner is my idea to incorporate a space or community center for queer and trans nonprofits and organizations. I continue to let these ideas marinate, and perhaps someday soon my true path with unfold itself to me.

As I continue to save financially to undertake my dreams, my next step is to really narrow down my goals and consider what I can realistically (and successfully) accomplish. My overarching goal this year is to get out of credit card debt and start saving! While I won’t reach my goal of having $600 saved for yoga teacher training by the end of March, I have significantly reduced my credit card debt by freelancing on the side of my regular job. As a tutor I make between $20-30 an hour, which helped me pay over $1,000 toward my credit cards this month. Through conscious thriftiness over 6 months we’ve paid off over $3,000 in debt. It’s been a long road, but when you have a concrete – AND AMAZING – goal in mind, it’s not so hard.

If you’re considering getting out of debt or starting to save to start your own business, let me know in the comment below!

Sorry guys… I’ve been busy! Catching up with #13, #26, and #22,!

Never in my life have I felt so simultaneously busy and at peace. I have chosen to put a lot onto my plate right now and I am managing it well. I have taken on 2 doula clients due in April and June, and I am awaiting the birth of my good friend’s baby in May. At Brightmont Academy we have had an influx of students and I have been working around 35 hours per week consistently. I also have 2 private tutoring student’s who are keeping me busy with 3-4 additional hours each week. Add to all that my monthly Mindful Queers and Allies Reading Circle (even though it does focus on meditation and mindfulness), planning a fundraiser for SPIRAL Collective, and hosting guests for 2 nights through AirBnB, and I’ve really had my hands full this month.

Managing my calendar, my sanity, and my home life have required immense focus and vigilance on my part. Even though I tried to take care of myself by sleeping and eating well, I still ended up with mild cold symptoms by the end of week two. With a full weekend of rest I am feeling myself again today, and I have vowed to take it a little easier moving forward. My Midwestern American upbringing urges me to work hard and work long, so I can have trouble truly relaxing once it’s time. That’s where meditation comes in.

Once you’ve completed your work for the day – and this isn’t defined by when your to-do list is complete necessarily, but by when you decide to call it quits for the day – try sitting in a quiet space and consciously reminding your mind to let go of your (busy, stressed, recurring) thoughts. Each time you are reminded of an idea, or something you should have done, simply try to let it go. If imagery is helpful to you, imagine this: each time you have a thought, place it on a cloud and watch it float away. You can also observe your breathing if this helps you direct your thoughts; think to yourself, “In, out, present, moment” with each in- and out-breath. As you watch your thoughts, try to watch them as a mere observer, not a judge. If your mind keeps returning to your work or your day, don’t get frustrated. Meditation isn’t the lack of thought, it’s this continual return to being the observer of your thoughts.

– Cheyenne

So what have I accomplished in this busy month? Many things!

Perfect #13 Recipes and Go on dates with friends #26 times 

I was asked to bring my famous Sausage Puff Pastry to Queer Vegan Thanksgiving, after my friend E.G. and her girlfriend Jenn were over for dinner at our place! I wanted to impress them, so I picked one of my fanciest cookbooks: Vegan Junk Food!

Vegan-Junk-Food

Everyone at dinner loved the sausage puff, which is simply veggie sausage, Vegenaise, herbs, and onions wrapped in a puff pastry roll! I was so happy when everyone asked for the recipe. Not only did our Thanksgiving centerpiece follow the Buddhist principle of “doing no harm”, but it was ad decadent and delicious as any Turkey I can remember from my childhood! If I’m going to enjoy the nostalgia of my childhood foods, the modern equivalent better damn well be delicious!

NEXT!

I also was…

My Unabashed-Self #22 Times in Public…

At an Ugly Cookie Party in December! Once again my friend E.G. was gracious enough to host us for a food-related event. I am so #grateful to have such wonderful vegan cooks around me that love to share their home and recipes!

So E.G. supplied the Ugly Cookie materials – everything from the cookies to the frosting and sprinkles. All we and her 12 closest other friends had to do was make the worlds nicest – or more likely ugliest – cookies in the world! It was a great opportunity to show my complete ineptitude at making frosted sugar cookies! And ugly or not, they were still Mmmmmmmm-rific! If you’re in the Twin Cities area and you’d like the invite, hit me up on Facebook!

I hope you enjoyed my long-overdue somewhat-holiday update!

Dont

Discover #28 ways meditation improves your life: Weekly Planning & Review Process

                ~ Day 13 ~
~Friday, December 26th, 2014 ~
  Weekly Planning and Review
Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.
– Abraham Lincoln

Cheyenne-
Completed my anchor habit for 27 minutes today. 6 minutes meditation followed by 21 minutes of yoga. Started with sitting meditation on my new gift from Remy! He got me a zafu and zabuton for Christmas! They are too beautiful, I feel spoiled. Then did daily warmup, followed by Back Bend poses from Om Yoga. Chanted Om before and after. Felt solid.

I need a Passion Planner! This Kickstarter started by a 24 year old woman raised over $650,000. Her idea was to integrate daily/weekly planning with life planning, goals setting, and prioritizing. It’s really quite cool!
https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/angeliatrinidad/passion-planner-the-one-place-for-all-your-thought/widget/video.html

Today’s action: Schedule your weekly planning and review session by setting up reminders and choosing a trigger activity that you do each week close to the time you’d like to do the session. If that session is scheduled for today, go for it!

1. Goal [write down your main goal statement with deadline here — it’s good to constantly remind yourself of what you’re aiming for]
2. Victories from last week
3. What went wrong last week
4. What you learned last week — meaning what you’ll do differently to correct the failures, and any other insights you had, memorable quotes you came across, etc.
5. What you’re committed to accomplishing in the next week (three items seems to be a good number, but it could be more or less depending on a lot of factors)
– Matt Frazier, No Meat Athlete

Weekly Planning & Review

  1. Goal: Get finances under control and start saving*
  2. Victories: This week I paid my final payment on my Dominican loan. I spent some time (20 minutes) updating the budget. I demonstrated that I am hard-working and responsible.
  3. Room for Improvement: I did not do my stated goals which were to pay bills and make a credit card payment. I also didn’t research business/nonprofit models. I could have demonstrated more organization and determination.
  4. What I’ve Learned: I didn’t pay bills that are due or credit cards because I wanted to get the budget updated first, which is often something I will put off paying bills and credit cards to do. That is something that can get in my way. I asked Remy for his help in updating the budget. He agreed to input his spending into the budget once a week.
  5. Next Week Commitments:
    Pay due bills and make a credit card payment.
    Start using our accounts correctly: get direct deposit updated and $250 from each paycheck should go in spending, this will limit our spending better.
    Get The Passion Planner

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  1. Goal: Participate in a 3 or 10 day meditation retreat
  2. Victories: Attended DharmaCore weekly sitting meditation. Meditated 5 days at home this week. Researched Common Ground Meditation Center. I demonstrated mindfulness, compassion, patience, and strength.
  3. Room for Improvement: Skipped meditation on Wednesday and Thursday (Christmas eve and day) and excused it because it was the holidays. I could have been more determined and disciplined.
  4. What I’ve Learned: The times that I need to practice meditation the most are also the times I’m most likely to skip them. I skipped meditation Wednesday and Thursday because I was busy and traveling and stressed, but I think if I had made time to sit anyway I would have had a better time.
  5. Next Week Commitments:
    I will meditate every day
    I will act mindfully or patiently in at least 3 situations that are challenging for me.

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  1. Goal: Get DONA Certification
  2. Victories: I have much to be grateful for this week. This week I attended not only my first ever birth, but I collected all the paperwork and surveys from mom, nurse, and doctor! I was there for a little over 10 hours and I feel extremely grateful the parents for letting me take part in their birth. Even though I felt more than a little unsure at times, I managed to get all good evaluations on my surveys! I left the family breastfeeding with their newborn and all of us satisfied with the experience.
  3. Room for Improvement: I did not read my DONA packet carefully before printing 3 surveys for moms, and no surveys for doctors or nurses. Turns out I’ll need three for each birth instead of three total. I wasn’t even sure I’d be able to count this birth, but everything worked out perfectly in the end.
  4. What I’ve Learned: I need to be very careful about how I set up labor intensive parents expectations. I’m already learning how they may rely on me as a source of information even if I don’t report myself to be an expert. Luckily mom was very flexible and did not seem to mind any unexpected procedures that occurred during her birth, but otherwise my comment about her pushing, and my comment about episiotomies could have made her feel negatively about her birth experience.
  5. Next Week Commitments:
    Reread my DONA packet more carefully.
    Write Birth Essay
    Print more surveys when you go back to work.
    Finish the entire book The Birth Partner.

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  1. Goal: Arrange personal sperm donors
  2. Victories: I invited donor to dinner on Friday, January 2nd, 2015.
  3. Room for Improvement: My friend and donor had a rough holiday, and wanted to hang out on Friday. I told him I was going shopping and he came to the same mall! I didn’t really spend that much time with him because I felt rushed by the birth I’d be attending later. I rushed off to buy groceries without saying goodbye. I really need to make sure I’m cultivating my friendships and not ever blowing the people that I love off.
  4. What I’ve Learned: This may be a lengthy process, so I definitely want to start with a solid foundation.
  5. Next Week Commitments:
    Take donor out to dinner!

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  1. Goal: Read 12 books
  2. Victories: I read a few pages of The Birth Partner during the birth I attended. I demonstrated patience and strength.
  3. Room for Improvement: I could have made more time to read. I could have demonstrated more responsibility and self-discipline.
  4. What I’ve Learned: No one is going to get these books read but me!
  5. Next Week Commitments:
    Read What Now?
    Finish The Birth Partner

Discover #28 ways meditation improves your life: Daily Sitting

                 ~ Day 10 ~
~ Tuesday, December 23rd, 2014 ~
        Get Wise to Your “Why’s”
Reason come first. Answers come second.
– Tony Robbins

Cheyenne-

Completed my anchor habit today for about 5 minutes (didn’t time it today). I did standing poses from Om Yoga. Chanted a little bit before and meditated in savasana for a couple minutes. Didn’t have a lot of time before work but it felt good to get it done.

I have added meditation to my anchor habit, and it has felt great to meditate daily. Today I meditated after yoga, and I also meditated for at least 5 minutes while driving, I’ve only been doing it for a couple days but I already feel the benefit. I like the idea of equanimity meditation, the metaphor of a still pond in the face of the wind. I would like to go into this holiday with family free of expectation, because the holidays can be such a time of pressure and expectation.

Today’s action:

For each of your one-year goals, write a paragraph about why you are so committed to making it happen (in the case of the one-year goals that are stepping stones to longer-term goals, you can combine the short- and long-term goal since the why’s will be similar). Make sure you describe the following three things, with as much emotion as possible:

1. Why you’re utterly determined to achieve this goal — for whom, for what?

2. What will happen if you don’t follow through (make this one painful, and really let yourself feel that pain)

3. Why you know you absolutely can make it happen — and get excited about that!

Alternatively, create a huge list of your reasons for each goal. I personally find that writing paragraphs stirs up more emotion than a list — and that’s the purpose here — but choose the approach that works best for you (or do both).

Why’s

Get finances under control and start saving – open a space – buy a house

I am a late bloomer to the realization that finances are the foundation to everything. I have spent most of my young adult life rejecting the narrative of saving and frugality imparted to me by my dad growing up. I seem to have forgotten many of the lessons he painstakingly taught me during my adolescence about not a accruing credit card debt, managing my money, and being thrifty. Somehow since moving back from Chicago Remy and I have never paid off our credit cards. This makes me feel shame even though I don’t believe money is all important. I have wavered almost constantly in my relationship to money: wanting more, not wanting to get stressed about it, getting stressed about it anyway… And while I was agonizing over these things I forgot that it does take careful financial planning to make your dreams come true. I need to improve my credit score to be able to apply for loans, and I’ll need loans to start my space. I’ll need a loan to buy a house someday. I realized through making and prioritizing my short and long term goals that my life calling will not bring me fame and fortune, my calling is to serve community and make enough money to live comfortably. I don’t see myself ever making more than $40-50,000 per year at most. So I will always need to be mindful about my finances, so that I can be responsible with my income and not fret about money all the time.

If I don’t follow through with getting my finances taken care of – which means paying off credit cards and making regular payments on our student loans – and start saving, I’ll never raise the money to go to yoga teacher training, to meditation training, get my DONA certification, or put down a down payment on a house. I’ll become even more financially stressed if I have a baby and my finances aren’t under control. I absolutely know that I can do this becaus Leos are determined, confident, and ambitious. If I believe in myself and hold myself accountable I can achieve anything, in high school I got amazing grades, was super involved, and excelled at everything it felt like, it would feel great to feel that way again. All I need to do is exercise a little restraint in the short term and I’ll get what I want in the long term: a space, a baby, a house, time to travel, and lots of joy in life, I already have so much joy, and I can’t wait to cultivate more!

Yoga Certification – open a space
Meditation certification – open a space

I love yoga. My daily practice is important to me . I could never list the benefits of a lifelong yoga and meditation practice. I want everyone to become aquainted with yoga in their life, and I hope that many choose to make practice a part of their lives in one form or another. I want to contribute to a more intentional, mindful, spiritual, and active world. Being active was something I loved about working at MPIRG, and it helped me realize that I want to be active in my career. I want to help people believe that everyone can do yoga. I want to help people. I would love to just start teaching yoga right now, but I wouldn’t be any good. I need to complete yoga teacher training so that I can truly serve my students, not to mention so I can depend my practice. Yoga certification and meditation certification

Get DONA Doula Certification – open a space

I am determined to complete my certification because of the experience I will gain and the help it will be for my doula business. I want to become more than a trained doula, I want to be a well-informed, and experienced doula with education to back up my career. I like to learn, and the parents that I work with deserve for me to be knowledgable. The first of many steps in my journey to be a doula is to understand the technical and literal aspects of pregnancy and birth. I am excited to take a childbirth education class and a breastfeeding class, and I’m excited to write my birth essays. There is a lot of knowledge I can get from the books I will need to read, and the experience of three births will give me some foundation of understanding for birth itself. The DONA certification will give me additional credentials for my doula business

Arrange personal sperm donors – have a baby

Why do I want to have a baby? That’s an impossible question. I want to have a baby because the sky is blue, because there are rainbows, and because I think my puppies would love them. I want to have a baby because they are beautiful, I love human beings and believe in their innate capacity for goodness. I want to have a baby because I think I could be a good mom if I work really hard. I want to have a baby because I think I can be an even better parent than my parents were. I want to have a baby because I think more people like me should have babies in the world. Before I come off sounding arrogant, I don’t mean to say and it is me who is special, I guess I mean my values. I want my child to be their own person, but I also want to show them how wonderful veganism can be, how great being queer is, how freeing gender can be and how constraining sometimes, I want to be honest with them about how the world really is, and I want to teach them yoga, art, music, sports, and theater. I also want to go through the experience of birth at least once. There are many reasons to have a baby, and if I don’t or can’t have one, I can try to adopt or foster. I can also do LGBT host home either way someday hopefully. I know if I put my mind to it I can probably have a baby.

Read 12 books – read all the books we own

Why am I absolutely determined to read all the books we own? Because I’ve helped shlep them all over hell in all our moved, and I’ll be damned if I kept them around to not read them! I moved these books from University Ave, to 8th St SE, to a storage unit, to 37th Ave S, to Chicago, and most recently to 16th Ave S. They were heavy, if I don’t get to read them I’ll be pissed, so I better just read them. If I read 12 per year I’ll read 120 books in 10 years, which should get me pretty close! Woo! Let’s do it!