Tag Archives: #mind

Discover #28 ways meditation improves your life: Turn off the autopilot

                 ~ Day 20 ~
~ Friday, January 2nd, 2015 ~
Turn your car into a mobile classroom, a university on wheels.
– Brian Tracy

Cheyenne-
Completely my anchor habit for 20 minutes. I meditated on the qualities I need to become, repeating them 3 times each. Did back bending poses from Om Yoga. Held bridge pose, and bridge pose with one leg up both for 10 breaths. Finally held my headstand for a full 10 breaths!

Today’s action: Identify some passive time in your daily routine that you can put to better use,  be it by meditating, being mindful, focusing on gratitude or solving problems, or listening to something educational or uplifting. Then get set up, whatever that entails: downloading podcasts to your iPod, learning a meditation routine, etc., so that beginning today or tomorrow, you can start putting that passive-mind time to good use.

I already spend my time meditating during my drives to and from work! I shouldn’t be too proud, it’s not like I do it every day. But I recently mentioned to my partner Remy that I would like to focus more on meditating while driving. I said, “I feel like I spend more time being mindful than I do driving mindlessly on my way to work, but on my drive home I spend more time distracted by far. Isn’t that interesting? I’ve been trying to be more focussed and sustained in my meditation during my drives, because I feel like I do have some mental energy to expend. When do you have “autopilot” time that you could be using in a focused way?

I’ve also been listening to books on tape since October, including The People’s History of the United States, which I’ve really been enjoying.  It’s a history from the people’s perspective, the subjugated and oppressed rather than the conquerors. The story is inspiring, sad, empowering, and uplifting.  Back to Wake Up – 31 days to take charge of your life, I really like Matt Frazier’s encouragement to balance productivity and down-time. He says, “Again, I’m not overlooking the necessity to “just be” sometimes…” which is important to remember. He isn’t encouraging us to spend every single moment being productive, he is encouraging us to be mindful of how we spend our time – be it meditating, or listening to an audiobook or music. Most people need more “just be” time, and I really respect a plan that encourages time to just be with yourself.

Learn #15 Things: Let others be

                 ~ Day 19 ~
~ Thursday, January 1st, 2015 ~
Push Through the Dip
Nothing great is created suddenly, any more than a bunch of grapes or a fig. If you tell me that you desire a fig, I answer you that there must be time. Let it first blossom, then bear fruit, then ripen.
– Epictetus

Cheyenne-
Completed my anchor habit for about 20 minutes with Remy. Led a great sitting meditation, then warm-up, then sitting poses from Om Yoga. Felt great to do it together… But then afterwards Remy told me honestly that he doesn’t like it when I ask him to do yoga the night before – it makes him feel obligated and cranky about it in the morning. He shared that he’d prefer if I simply told him in the morning, “I’m going to do my practice and you’re welcome to join me if you like.” I guess I can understand not wanting to do yoga out of requirement. I would always prefer to do yoga when I feel it’s my choice rather than something I have to do. I want him to feel good about yoga so I’m going to try to take this approach moving forward.

We can all learn something from my interaction with my partner this morning. We can make people feel negative thoughts or positive thoughts simply by demanding or leaving the opportunity open. Small differences in tone, demeanor, and word choice can make all the difference. When do you guilt someone you love into something because you don’t think they will do it unless they feel obliged to you?

Today’s action:

Do what it takes to keep your motivation strong. You’re over halfway through this program, but there are still a lot of actions to complete and changes to make. Catch up, get organized, review what you’ve done so far, and give yourself a dose of inspiration or an external reward.

Today I reviewed my notes and journals, and updated my business journal. I feel good about my progress, and I hope to do my weekly review this Sunday! I also took a nice shower and prepared for tomorrow by packing and organizing my work bag! Feelin’ great.

Discover #28 ways meditation improves your life: Weekly Planning & Review Process

                ~ Day 13 ~
~Friday, December 26th, 2014 ~
  Weekly Planning and Review
Give me six hours to chop down a tree and I will spend the first four sharpening the axe.
– Abraham Lincoln

Cheyenne-
Completed my anchor habit for 27 minutes today. 6 minutes meditation followed by 21 minutes of yoga. Started with sitting meditation on my new gift from Remy! He got me a zafu and zabuton for Christmas! They are too beautiful, I feel spoiled. Then did daily warmup, followed by Back Bend poses from Om Yoga. Chanted Om before and after. Felt solid.

I need a Passion Planner! This Kickstarter started by a 24 year old woman raised over $650,000. Her idea was to integrate daily/weekly planning with life planning, goals setting, and prioritizing. It’s really quite cool!
https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/angeliatrinidad/passion-planner-the-one-place-for-all-your-thought/widget/video.html

Today’s action: Schedule your weekly planning and review session by setting up reminders and choosing a trigger activity that you do each week close to the time you’d like to do the session. If that session is scheduled for today, go for it!

1. Goal [write down your main goal statement with deadline here — it’s good to constantly remind yourself of what you’re aiming for]
2. Victories from last week
3. What went wrong last week
4. What you learned last week — meaning what you’ll do differently to correct the failures, and any other insights you had, memorable quotes you came across, etc.
5. What you’re committed to accomplishing in the next week (three items seems to be a good number, but it could be more or less depending on a lot of factors)
– Matt Frazier, No Meat Athlete

Weekly Planning & Review

  1. Goal: Get finances under control and start saving*
  2. Victories: This week I paid my final payment on my Dominican loan. I spent some time (20 minutes) updating the budget. I demonstrated that I am hard-working and responsible.
  3. Room for Improvement: I did not do my stated goals which were to pay bills and make a credit card payment. I also didn’t research business/nonprofit models. I could have demonstrated more organization and determination.
  4. What I’ve Learned: I didn’t pay bills that are due or credit cards because I wanted to get the budget updated first, which is often something I will put off paying bills and credit cards to do. That is something that can get in my way. I asked Remy for his help in updating the budget. He agreed to input his spending into the budget once a week.
  5. Next Week Commitments:
    Pay due bills and make a credit card payment.
    Start using our accounts correctly: get direct deposit updated and $250 from each paycheck should go in spending, this will limit our spending better.
    Get The Passion Planner

______

  1. Goal: Participate in a 3 or 10 day meditation retreat
  2. Victories: Attended DharmaCore weekly sitting meditation. Meditated 5 days at home this week. Researched Common Ground Meditation Center. I demonstrated mindfulness, compassion, patience, and strength.
  3. Room for Improvement: Skipped meditation on Wednesday and Thursday (Christmas eve and day) and excused it because it was the holidays. I could have been more determined and disciplined.
  4. What I’ve Learned: The times that I need to practice meditation the most are also the times I’m most likely to skip them. I skipped meditation Wednesday and Thursday because I was busy and traveling and stressed, but I think if I had made time to sit anyway I would have had a better time.
  5. Next Week Commitments:
    I will meditate every day
    I will act mindfully or patiently in at least 3 situations that are challenging for me.

______

  1. Goal: Get DONA Certification
  2. Victories: I have much to be grateful for this week. This week I attended not only my first ever birth, but I collected all the paperwork and surveys from mom, nurse, and doctor! I was there for a little over 10 hours and I feel extremely grateful the parents for letting me take part in their birth. Even though I felt more than a little unsure at times, I managed to get all good evaluations on my surveys! I left the family breastfeeding with their newborn and all of us satisfied with the experience.
  3. Room for Improvement: I did not read my DONA packet carefully before printing 3 surveys for moms, and no surveys for doctors or nurses. Turns out I’ll need three for each birth instead of three total. I wasn’t even sure I’d be able to count this birth, but everything worked out perfectly in the end.
  4. What I’ve Learned: I need to be very careful about how I set up labor intensive parents expectations. I’m already learning how they may rely on me as a source of information even if I don’t report myself to be an expert. Luckily mom was very flexible and did not seem to mind any unexpected procedures that occurred during her birth, but otherwise my comment about her pushing, and my comment about episiotomies could have made her feel negatively about her birth experience.
  5. Next Week Commitments:
    Reread my DONA packet more carefully.
    Write Birth Essay
    Print more surveys when you go back to work.
    Finish the entire book The Birth Partner.

______

  1. Goal: Arrange personal sperm donors
  2. Victories: I invited donor to dinner on Friday, January 2nd, 2015.
  3. Room for Improvement: My friend and donor had a rough holiday, and wanted to hang out on Friday. I told him I was going shopping and he came to the same mall! I didn’t really spend that much time with him because I felt rushed by the birth I’d be attending later. I rushed off to buy groceries without saying goodbye. I really need to make sure I’m cultivating my friendships and not ever blowing the people that I love off.
  4. What I’ve Learned: This may be a lengthy process, so I definitely want to start with a solid foundation.
  5. Next Week Commitments:
    Take donor out to dinner!

______

  1. Goal: Read 12 books
  2. Victories: I read a few pages of The Birth Partner during the birth I attended. I demonstrated patience and strength.
  3. Room for Improvement: I could have made more time to read. I could have demonstrated more responsibility and self-discipline.
  4. What I’ve Learned: No one is going to get these books read but me!
  5. Next Week Commitments:
    Read What Now?
    Finish The Birth Partner